Divorce as Initiation

Divorce is a liminal (in-between) state.  There is the decision to divorce, and then there are the months or years of the difficult process of fully extricating yourself from a complex arrangement. This is a powerful time for grieving and dissolving aspects of yourself that are no longer necessary. It may be a wonderful relief to…

Swept in the Current of Divorce?

As a society, we have not yet come to terms with the reality of divorce. We are still operating on old beliefs: Divorce is failure. Divorce is shameful and evidence that there is something wrong with us. Divorce is a selfish and immature choice that irreversibly harms children. Because of these erroneous beliefs, we have…

What is Really True?

It is a gradual process that starts in early childhood. We learned that in order to get love, survive in our families or achieve status in our world, we had to behave according to the needs of others. Our inner knowing was often shoved aside, in favor of gaining attention and trying to get praise. It…

Do I have to Stay Married?

  For years, I struggled in a painful marriage.  We bickered constantly. I exploded with rage regularly. I felt unloved, unappreciated, unhappy. I was one of those people who was trying to keep it together while I was dying on the inside. It wasn’t enough that we had a great business, 2 beautiful children and a great lifestyle. I wanted…

Is it Abuse?

A lot of abuse that occurs in intimate relationships is actually very well disguised. We may not even realize that our behaviors are abusive until someone else points it out. We may imagine that all relationships are difficult, and wonder what is wrong with us that we can’t just accept our situation. We know there…

3 Biggest Mistakes we Make in Divorce

Relationships have changed more in the past 50 years than they ever have in the previous 5000. So the fact that we don’t really know how to do this divorce thing… well, it makes sense. It’s all brand new. But it’s important we learn – because we are doing some serious damage as we careen through…

Joy

Here are 3 meditations I did recently on the subject of Joy. First This morning I went to my exercise class. It is fairly intense, and I often have an emotional release, especially when I double down on my efforts instead of just getting by and trying to make the time pass… The class has…

Should I Stay or Should I Go?

If you are asking yourself this question about your relationship, you are in a very tender place. Congratulations for asking yourself a very hard question. This takes courage. You are weighing the options, looking deeply at your situation, feeling fairly confused. Perhaps you are looking for guidance. Good news. You don’t have to figure it all…

Love Heals your Heart -Free Workshop

I will be offering a free 2 hour workshop at the Bozeman Public Library on May 17 from 6-8pm. Come and learn about the transformational Conscious Uncoupling Process created by New York Times Bestselling Author Katherine Woodward Thomas – an algorithm for healing heartbreak and clearing old resentments from past relationships. While most of us…

Shadow meets Shadow

“You never really know a person until you divorce them”  I heard this as I was in the beginning of my divorce process and I thought – yah, whatever, I’ve been married to this guy for 17 years. I know him so well. He can’t surprise me. What I didn’t know is that the process…

What is Conscious Uncoupling?

Conscious Uncoupling is a 5 step program that will lead you from heartbreak to wholeness. It is educational, experiential and profound. This process involves a set of practices that I will guide you through, and that you will be able to use for the rest of your life. We can’t become ourselves by ourselves. We…